About Us

How did it all begin?

I (Dxtr Spits) got to a very unhealthy space of burnout which pushed me to a point of dangerous self harm. How Men Cry was a mission that began from the ashes of my worst mental health crisis, but it was a necessary struggle for something so beautiful to arise. Let’s be a life raft for one another. Men need authentic spaces to heal…

Why “How” Men Cry?

When we say “How Men Cry” we’re not just talking about physical tears, we’re talking about all the ways we “cry out” from unprocessed traumas and pain. This can be through depression, issues with substances, relationship conflicts, and self harm.

We believe the internal healing will radiate and create waves externally.

Dxtr Spits

Jordan “Dxtr Spits” Holmes was raised in Prince George’s County Maryland. His curious mind led him to become a jack of all trades as a scientist/engineer, musician, spoken word artist, and entrepreneur.  Holmes relocated to Chicago in 2014 after graduating from Virginia Tech where he got his degree as a Materials Science Engineer and met his mentor Dr. Nikki Giovanni. He began the pursuit of his music career as Dxtr Spits, a witty, impactful, and energized lyricist. His motto is to “live life like an experiment, you cannot control what happens to you, but you can control the product you become”. He explores experimental themes in his multi-sensory performances such as his signature black light live band performances. His acapella spoken word and keynotes have brought crowds to tears while teaching inspirational deep life lessons. Holmes is the Founder and CEO of  ONLi (ONLi Packs), a mindfulness and outdoors brand aimed at encouraging individuals to live with intention & explore their curiosity. He most recently launched a movement called “How Men Cry” which is changing the narrative around mens relationship to vulnerability and mental health. 

Meet the Team